Friday, March 02, 2007

Raya. Ahava. Dod.

Okay -- so a number of people* have asked me if they could ever see what my notes look like going in to Wednesday night when I teach at the 706. Granted, there's a lot that I write in the margin that you won't get to see,'s the basic outline from this past Wednesday night's little lesson:

* = "a number of people" actually just means means "my mom." She's the only one who's asked. So therefore I feel justified in posting this.

[update from the author (that would be Sonny) on 2-13-09: I've noticed that this page gets HECK of a lot of hits off of Google. Because of this, in case you - the net surfer extraordinaire that you are - might be interested in seeing an updated/slightly expanded version of this topic, head on over to

It is my eventual goal to come back and "clean up" this particular blog posting - simply because if anyone actually gets anything out of what's written here, I'm both humbled and astonished, given the scatter-shot manner in which my notes are outlined...]


Love Actually clip – intro/the scene where they're in the airport

1. I'll admit it – this is one of my favorite movies of all time. Not the most wholesome, and will never make ABC Family Channel, but that scene where the little kid is running through the airport? The "To Me, You Are Perfect" sign guy? The score? Come on.

2. The opening scene – that's real. Not actors. Those faces are real. Movie does go all Hollywood crazy in that people fall in love so easily, they have these great lives – the fakery of it all – and there is some questionable ways that these characters meet and fall "in love." And then, there's Hugh Grant dancing.

Romans 13:8Don't run up debts, except for the huge debt of love you owe each other. When you love others, you complete what the law has been after all along.

3. Josh McDowell: "Each one of you has two fears. One fear is that you will never be loved. Second is the fear that you will never be able to love someone."

4. Why do we watch romantic comedies, romance movies, read trashy romance novels? Because we want IT, we hope for it – even if we can't really say that to ourselves, we know we want to be known BY love and FOR love.

5. That's my focus on REEL LOVE vs REAL LOVE tonight. Because the REEL shows fakery. Love actually IS all around us. Love, not lust.

6. And if we just focus on the "Thou Shalt Not's" and we don't show you how to do the "Shalt's" in the way God intended, then that's just as fake – as one-sided – as the "always-end-on-a-happy-ending" REEL love stories you've seen.

7. I love coffee. Some would say unnaturally so. I love pizza. And I love Maggie & Cricket, my dogs. I love Ashley, and in less than three months, we're going to get married. But is the same love that I say that I love her with the same love that I use when I say that I love how a pair of jeans look really good on me? Or when I love your hair?

8. Bryan spoke about love two weeks ago, and again on Sunday quoting from a book called the Song of Solomon or Song of Songs.
a. 4:7 – You're beautiful from head to toe, my dear love, beautiful beyond compare, absolutely flawless
b. 8:7 – Flood waters can't drown love, torrents of rain can't put it out. Love can't be bought, love can't be sold —it's not to be found in the marketplace.
c. 1:2 – Kiss me—full on the mouth! Yes! For your love is better than wine, headier than your aromatic oils

9. Book originally written in Hebrew, using three (3) words for love – not the ones you normally hear us talking about (agape, etc.):
a. Raya – friend, someone to hang with – root of Bryan's name?
b. Ahava – love of commitment, dedicating oneself to someone
c. Dod – physical, sexual love

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12It's better to have a partner than go it alone. Share the work, share the wealth. And if one falls down, the other helps, but if there's no one to help, tough! Two in a bed warm each other. Alone, you shiver all night. By yourself you're unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three-stranded rope isn't easily snapped.

10. We were created to experience all three.

11. Three is a very sacred number in the Bible -- # of days Jesus was buried before His resurrection; Trinity; man-woman-God (Adam-Eve-God); body-soul-spirit

Proverbs 3:3Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Love actually IS all around us.

12. Ever known anyone who gives 1/3 or 2/3 of love – of themselves – but not all of love/to love? I haven't. Not always. Some dod, some ahava, some raya – but God wants the best for us. God wants us to give all three, and not accept that the REEL parts of love that are shown aren't that REAL.

13. Yeah, it sounds corny, it sounds clich├ęd, but it's REAL.


Anonymous said...

body soul and spirit...
it is not body, mind and spirit??

becose in this context i can see much diference in soul and spirit...

Anonymous said...

I don't doubt this is what God is wanting for us but for many including myself acquiring it is nearly close to impossible and I can see why some give up on finding it and just settle.

Anonymous said...

sometime ago I was in the same though as you LeX.

But more I investigate, soul is not only mind, it's mind, feelings and will.

Well this is just my opinion.

Anonymous said...

Loved your piece. Matt Chandler from the Village Church did a series on the three and boy was it wonderful. Thanks for the writing. It was really good. (: Be blessed.

-Ash B. said...

I go to the village as well!
what would we call these three words? Is there even a name for them?