Monday, March 15, 2010

Things I Learned While In Chicago

1. I miss colder weather. Yes, I know that my perspective towards living environments has been skewed after living in Miami for almost three years, but I forgot how good it feels to walk outside in the morning and not break a sweat due to the humidity.

2. Yes, I would walk eight blocks to find a Whole Foods to get food for Kai.

3. The Placement Exchange looked more like a mortician's convention than a mass gathering of people in Student Affairs. Seriously - I know that we were all there to interview for jobs or interview on the behalf of a college/university, but I have never seen such a dour gathering of people in my life. I'm not going to suggest that people go all coo-coo and - I don't know - wear something with a color other than dark blue or black, but I would like to see the radical idea of people smiling be implemented.

Here's a hint: if you can't show the least bit of excitement or joy over what you do or want to do, maybe that should tell you something. I don't turn cartwheels every day when I think about all I have to do with Kai, but I still get excited when I see him.

Let your professional competencies speak for themselves. If you've got the talent and skills, that will be evident. The passion you have for that job should be what shines through. Again: I use Kai as my framework.

4. Speaking of The Placement I totally skewed the median age by hanging out in the candidate area. It was like sitting in a Chuck-E-Cheese for professionals., all fresh-faced and with their whole careers in front of made me wonder where they might be when they hit my geriatric age, and if they would still be in the field, or if they would find themselves called elsewhere...and what that means for the future of student affairs.

And then I realized I was thinking too much, so I started humming the theme from Dr. Who, trying to use it as a clarion call to see if any of these kids were fellow nerds.

5. Chicago has some good microbrews. And I am now spoiled on pizza for the rest of my life. I want to just run into Papa John's and tell them they're all liars for selling what they do.

6. I loved reconnecting with some old friends (DRS. Rush and Akers), and making new ones (you never know who you'll run into while sitting in the lobby of your hotel. You might wind up sharing a drink or two with a former president of NASPA). And then there were some people that...well...

When I ran into a professional acquaintance I'd known for over ten years, she introduced me to a colleague of hers this way: "I've known Sonny for a number of years. He's been very involved in the field, has had some excellent presentations and articles, and has held some excellent positions. Now he's just a stay at home dad." And with that comment, she said we'd catch up later, and then she turned her back to me.

Chicago got a lot colder at that moment.

And I'm not sure which I felt more of: sorrow and pity for her, or a tinge of anger at her dismissing of me. Whichever it was, I got over it rather quickly.

Especially when I got my next performance review from my supervisor: a hug and a smile from Kai.


Stephanie said...

Wow! What a great posting. Isn't it amazing that you gain some insight on how some people view stay at home parents? It's like somehow the most important job of parenting is so unappreciated. I'm so glad you take so much joy in your son! He seems like a very forgiving and loveable little boss.

Andysbethy said...

I agree with you wholeheartedly - if you have no passion for your career choice, especially right at the beginning of it, then why are you choosing it? It is one thing to be frustrated, or tired, or whatever after 30 years in the field, but why start out dour faced? Personally, I think that cartwheels may not be out of place... depending on the job.
I disappointed several people when I became "just a stay at home mom", but I have never regretted one moment of it - and hope to keep it up for the next 20 years or so. (Although Andy does keep saying that once the kids are grown, it will be my turn to leave the house, and he will handle all the cooking and laundry, etc... once the kids are taken care of! He is not as brave as you, taking on both the house, and the kids)

lisacolorado said...

This is the interesting stuff of life. Too many blogs about how "My Family Is So Lovely" but yours is more about seeing things through your eyes, and that's fun because I get tired of seeing things through my own eyes.

--Lisa (Gertrude)