Monday, November 19, 2012


Well, since last week was my birthday and this week is Thanksgiving, productivity has been - shall we say - absent. So I'm going to give myself a gift: the gift of taking a break. 

But beginning the first week in December, I'm coming back. With a vengeance. 

And I'm going to begin my first-ever series on my blog:

I Call Pulpit.

(Go on, say it out loud, and then realize what phrase it rhymes with...)

Ever seen hypocrisy from leaders in the church? Ever felt uneasy about a ministry named after a minister? Ever gotten frustrated, broken-hearted or angry at church?

This is for you. Me. Us. 

But instead of just complaining about it, we're going to call PULPIT! on these shenanigans and start to do something about it. 

So send me your questions, your thoughts, your ideas. 


Rckjones said...

Hi Sonny, awesome series idea! For some reason the first thing that came to mind for me was all the times I've been the victim of someone's "pastorly concern" at church. Here's the scenario: you've been attending a new church for a while, and then you miss the Sunday meeting a week or two in a row because of perfectly ordinary reasons. Suddenly you get a call from the pastor about how "you've been missed" and that everyone wants to make sure that you're not "struggling" with anything. This is a huge pet peeve of mine - using "concern" as an excuse to subtly pressure people into falling in line and demonstrating to them that you and Jesus are still cool.

I've had it happen to me, and seen it happen to other more vulnerable fellow believers many times over the years. Personally, I think it's because at heart, me and the pastor just have different goals. My goal is to walk with God, wherever that takes me. Maybe that means God wants me out late with my friends who aren't believers, having conversations late into the night, and then sleeping in on Sunday. The pastor is probably concerned about my relationship with God, but he/she has to be even more concerned about the ministry itself. If people aren't attending the meetings, how can the pastor pass on "the vision"? How can the pastor have a high enough head count to feel like the ministry is healthy? Generally speaking, attending the meeting is the marker by which you are considered part of a body or not - despite what you're doing with your fellow parishioners outside of Sunday. Recently I saw this at work with a young friend of mine. She is heavily involved in a ministry for college kids, and for a variety of reasons has stopped attending the Wednesday night meeting. She's still active in a Bible study and spends a LOT of time with the other students in fellowship, but her skipping this meeting has become a big enough deal that she came to me for advice on how to deal with everyone's "concern" for her.

Anyway, looking forward to your series - love the title too, and can't wait to see what kind of conversation comes out of it!

Annette Skarin said...

Hi, I'm not a serial christian, so don't worry. I spent years in a toxic controlling church, but it's been thirty years since I left, so I've healed from a lot. I have learned to follow my true shepherd, Jesus, and pray for those in leadership. I still have my antennae up and have learned to use my discernment as I grow in grace. I quite often feel that pastors have to put on more of a front than the rest of us because they think we need to see them as more spiritually mature. They are just fallible people like the rest of us and will probably never lead perfectly as a result. Keep being honest and don't let legalism creep in. It's a sneaky bugger that legalism because it raises it's puffy head and says, "I'm so glad I'm not like those other sinners. I keep all the rules." I pray God keeps my head bowed.